Monday, May 14, 2012

Be the Change

I've always had profound admiration for all things Gandhi. His story moved me and in his quiet resolute way made me think about the many things I've encountered in this my life journey.

Every one has the innate need to be remembered long after they're gone. I would hate to know that my life lived was all in vain. 

This quote seems to be the one to get me off my behind and do something.

What can one simple woman do with limited resources and a severe case of the "Don't do it'itis"?

I've decided that I can't possibly traipse all over the world in search of things to "Be the change..." to. I can't even begin to spend money I don't have on others. (Try living off a private school teacher's salary and that being the only income in a household of seven people, with two soon to be three kids in college).

I can't share my time volunteering anywhere as I do have obligations in said household.

So what's a girl to do to make "Be the change"?

I look around myself, my job and my domicile and the answer is clear and apparent.

To "Be the change....", I need to start with myself. Duh you say, but scoff not. We forget our purpose in this life and we get entrapped in the "glamour" of people, things, events, social media and other fascinating, yet trivial pursuits. Remember that game? Trivial, yes trivial. Mind blowing drivel and time wasting mind play. Yet we become embroiled in such. 

Sometimes, it becomes mandatory to step back and look within and evaluate and critique the person hiding behind your own smile. 

Who are you and what are you doing in this time and part of your life?
What will you change today?
Where are you going in this direction you're headed?
When will you get there?
How will you accomplish your journey?
Who will benefit from such a journey?
Why do you want others to benefit, or not to benefit?

Tough questions to ask of self, especially as I stare my mortality in the face.

To be the change, Gandhi is not asking us to stormily take the world, but to take the world. Be the best person you can be. Start with your world and yourself.

Love yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
Forgive yourself.
Take care of yourself.
Be good to yourself.
and the list continues....

When you are the best person to yourself, you will be the best child, the best daughter, the best friend, the best best student, the best employee, the best fiance, the best spouse, the best parent, the best grandparent.

The ripple effect from all of these duties will be felt in every aspect of your life and every human you touch simply by being the best you.

We can't change the world....
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"


  1. This is a bad world with a few good people. Unfortunately the good blame themselves. A suppressive mentality, thinking if I just be the change and everyone else do the same, the world will become a better place. "Love, peace and harmony, if the bad guys hit me on left cheek offer him the right as well" classical Gandhi philosophy, and very respected by myself. However this can't work today. I see Shaeeza you're a good person already. This world will become better only when you decide to make it change, not be the change. I've seen it happen Democratically, it can be done righteously. I know the hardship of teachers, it's just as difficult for students. I worked two jobs to pay a tuition. I've tried being the change, what work for me was when I decided to make the change. (please don't take this out of context, I mean no disrespect to you in any way, shape or form)

  2. I see what you're saying and while I do agree with you to some extent, any bit helps. One bit of kindness, one bit of a smile, one bit of help, one bit of sustenance, one bit of empathy, one bit of good, one bit of perseverance, one bit of comfort all adds up to many , many, many bits that can affect change. Start within because change comes from within first.

    “Truly, God does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11)

    1. You've debated your point and won. I graciously bow, I read the Quran so many time and know that verse too well. I can never oppose it. Take this into consideration, there's seven Heaven, seven Gates, and seven Roads. On these roads theirs two kind of people, followers and leaders. You don't strike me nor do we need the former. So much people are looking for a better tomorrow, the greater good, and this Utopia we were promised. The prophet Muhammad(saw) said if you see something wrong you should make it right, if you can't then speak up, and if none of these then at least disagree within your heart. In my opinion this is a correct direction for Heaven on Earth. From my perspective we're at rising and speaking up but blocked by a speed bump. We would like to get over it and reach the gates of a better tomorrow. We the people want and need to make it right. Inshallah

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  4. Written almost 4 years ago but this is where I am right now. My goal has been to reboot my life. I've been trying to create a life map for the past two weeks to see where I've been, where I am and where my passions will take me. May Allah make it easy on us all to be the change we need to see in ourselves, our families, our community and world. Ameen ❤️